Everyone has a set of values. Values are the beliefs or principles that we hold about how we want to exist in the world. They are the standards by which we would choose to act towards others, ourselves, and the world around us.
When we define our values, we are describing how our lives would be most meaningful to us, according to our own standards. They are very personal. They are not about how others us tell we should live but how we would choose to live.
Valued living is having a notion about what we want out of life and then making a commitment to ourselves to take action in service of those values. It is the most vital way in which we would choose to live.
If we are to truly live a valued life, we will be forever moving in the direction of our values. Values are part of our journey, not a simple destination. Values are not specific goals with an end point, like a bike race or a triathlon. Values are a continuous way of living. For example, if we value our health, we must consistently strive to take steps to be healthy. Being healthy is the value because it is an ongoing process. Completing a triathlon or eating a healthy meal is a goal or a specific achievement with an end point, a step along the way. We cannot simply "think" ourselves healthier, either. We have to do things, perhaps very differently from what we have done before, to work towards that value of being healthy.
We would define our most important life values and then begin to make choices of what we would do to live those out.
There are many ways to describe our most important values. However, a great starter tool is the Values Worksheet, created and adapted from renowned author/therapist, Kelly G. Wilson, PhD by author/therapist Russ Harris, MD. As part of your FREE 30-minute phone consultation, we can discuss your results at that time or you can attend one of our workshops on Valued Living. For more in-depth review of your values and making a plan of action so you can live a more vital life, please call to make an in-person appointment.